Thursday, August 16, 2012

Are You Attracting The Wrong Type of Clients?


Do You Seem To Attract All The Negative Clients?

The Power of Attraction Is Stronger Than You Think….

Ever wonder why some people just seem to be “lucky”? Everything seems to always be perfect in their lives? Perfect wife/husband …perfect children …perfect hair …perfect smile? Do you think it is luck?

 There is an old saying which says …A successful person makes their own “luck” through hard work. Ever wonder why some agents in the office seem to be really “lucky” at their phone lead time? Or why some agents seem to fill the listing and sales boards month after month?   Do you really think it is luck?

I have a story I want to share ….It’s a story about an agent …let’s call her Betty …Well Betty would come into my office at least 3 times a week moaning and complaining about the poor quality leads she was getting, and how every client she has are not very nice people (that’s not exactly what she called them …but this is a G-rated blog). So after weeks and months of listening to her stories I came to the conclusion that Betty was really, really ….”un-lucky”!

This is how I coached her…I said ...”Betty, I think I know why all your clients are acting like a~*#@” ...Betty said “Oh really ….please tell me before I throttle somebody” …I stood up and took her by the hand, led her down the hall to a mirror and I pointed at her reflection, and said “There it is” ….

I said nothing more …I stood and stared at her reflection in the mirror and waited for a response …after a few moments of silence Betty turned and looked at me and said “I don’t understand …are you trying to tell me I am the problem?”  …I calmly, but firmly said “exactly”   (Betty was now entering into what we in the coaching world call the denial phase) ….”I am not the problem” Betty said angrily …”I cannot believe you could even say such a thing” and she stormed off down the hall and left the building in a huff… A "MAD Betty"!

Three days later Betty came to my door and sheepishly asked if she could come in … as she sat in the chair I could see the anguish in her face and tears welling in her eyes …this was not a mad Betty ….this was a defeated Betty. 

She told me how she had done some soul searching, talked with her family and friends, and realized that what I had said was true …that over the past few years she had become a bitter negative person, and instead of looking for the good in people, she always sought to find the bad (or the negative) in them. She realized this only after her husband, children, and some of her closest friends all told her how much she had changed and how much they wanted the “old” positive Betty back.

Well it’s been about 6 months now and Positive Betty is back! ….Her business has almost  doubled from this time last year, she is enjoying life, lost 20 pounds, quit smoking, and has not worked with an a** in quite some time! 

The moral of this story: If the negative is what you seek, The negative you shall find.

Stay away from Energy Draining Negatives like Fear, Worry, Drama, and Conflict …Run towards Energy Givers and Sustainers like Positive Associations, Positive Mental Intake, Taking Care of Yourself, Written Goals, and Accountability.

Stop focusing on problems and focus on your goals. Track your progress and take breaks to re-energize when needed.

Every day when you wake up you have a choice …to be happy (positive) or be sad (negative) …which one did you choose today?

 Eddie Brown ©2012

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